After putting the kids to bed last night, my husband and I watched To the Bone, a Netflix film about a young woman dealing with anorexia. This movie sent chills up and down my spine. While there was humor within to lighten the storyline, I couldn’t help but feel such sadness for this woman and her family.
About three-quarters of the way through the film, there is a scene with Eli (the girl struggling with anorexia) and her mother. I won’t spoil what happens, but let’s just say I was bawling my eyes out. Not just because of the struggle, Eli was going through, but because as a mother, I can’t imagine watching your child go through something so devastating. Such pain, such loss. The mother realizing there is nothing she can do to help her child.
This idea of helplessness scares me. How can we equip our daughters and sons with the knowledge and strength to overcome and avoid such a battle? The mother had so much remorse for her actions. She wrestled with the idea of how she may have had a hand in forcing her daughter down this painful path. This path that was slowly killing her. The defeat. The turmoil.
It’s not just about body image, but control. This was the one thing Eli could control amidst a life of chaos and heartbreak. It was her way of dealing with the pain of the past.
The struggle is real. There is so much my husband, and I need to teach our children. How can we instill a healthy body image? A feeling of self-worth and confidence that they are beautiful just the way they are?
Have you seen the film? What are your thoughts?